11.23.2025

sunday stealing

 
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Revisiting Steph


1) Has anyone ever told you "I love you" but you didn't say it back? yes--it was said in public and I was mortified as he was slovenly drunk
 
2) Do you consider yourself organized? organized chaos
 
3) Where do you look first when you go clothes shopping? online

4) Do you often reflect on your past in terms of eras or milestones ("it's been 10 years since X happened")? yes, I am often shocked by how time has passed:  the other day could be months ago
 
5) Were you more recently ill or injured (flu vs. twisted ankle)? ill--last week I was sick with an allergy cold

postsecret


PostSecret is an ongoing community art project where people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard. I like to post one that speaks to me each week.

11.22.2025

saturday 9


The Lady in Red

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
 
1) Is red a color you often wear? not especially, I don't avoid it but I tend to wear more maroon
 
2) In this song, Chris De Burgh is thrilled to be dancing with the woman he loves. Do you recall what was playing the last time you stepped onto the dance floor? The Pointer Sisters' We Are Family
 
3) Chris says he wrote this song about the first time he saw his future wife, who wore a red dress when she came to see his band perform. Tell us about a memorable concert going experience. hmmm, I'll pick the Sting concert I saw where it was outdoors, a starry night with a full moon, and he stopped to appreciate how lovely the night and setting were.  It was personable and he felt like a friend.
 
4) Chris' father worked as a diplomat for the United Kingdom. Former US ambassador Robert D. Blackwill believes a diplomat should possess strong writing/speaking skills, meticulous attention to detail, historical knowledge, and stamina. Do you have any of those attributes? uh... not at that level
 
5) Chris' family owns Bargy Castle, a 15th century fortress in County Wexford, Ireland. Bargy Castle has been converted into a hotel. What's the last hotel you stayed in? I think it was in Central Maine when my flight got in at midnight and I didn't want to drive home
 
6) Chris is a wine connoisseur who sold a collection of vintage reds for over $500,000. If you suddenly came into $500,000, what would you do with it? get out of debt and put it away for retirement
 
7) In 1986, when this song was popular, singer/actress Lady Gaga was born in Manhattan. Have you been to New York City? yes!  I've had marvelous adventures in the Big Apple
 
8) Also in 1986, NHL Hall of Famer Jacques Plante died. Are you a hockey fan? I do cheer on the local hockey league team--it is probably my favorite sport to watch in person
 
9) Random question – You just slid behind the wheel and are about to embark on a long road trip. Which of these famous Williams would you choose as your navigator: Willie Nelson, Bill Murray, or William, Prince of Wales? I'm torn between William, Prince of Wales, and Bill  Murray

11.20.2025

three on thursday

 
One:  Christmas shopping is underway!  I have a good portion of it done.  Let the packages arrive!

Two:  today was a very good therapy session.  I am thankful for my therapist.

Three: my allergy cold is finally clearing up!

finished reading

This book about grief and self-discovery is a lesson about life's joys and heartaches, risks and adventures.  Clover lives a tightly organized life, caught in the grief of her parents' and later her grandfather's deaths.  I genuinely enjoyed this book and hoped that Clover would discover the joys of her life.

From the publisher:
What’s the point of giving someone a beautiful death if you can’t give yourself a beautiful life?

From the day she watched her kindergarten teacher drop dead during a dramatic telling of Peter Rabbit, Clover Brooks has felt a stronger connection with the dying than she has with the living. After the beloved grandfather who raised her dies alone while she is traveling, Clover becomes a death doula in New York City, dedicating her life to ushering people peacefully through their end-of-life process.

Clover spends so much time with the dying that she has no life of her own, until the final wishes of a feisty old woman send Clover on a trip across the country to uncover a forgotten love story––and perhaps, her own happy ending. As she finds herself struggling to navigate the uncharted roads of romance and friendship, Clover is forced to examine what she really wants, and whether she’ll have the courage to go after it.

Probing, clever, and hopeful, The Collected Regrets of Clover turns the normally taboo subject of death into a reason to celebrate life.

finished reading

This is a delightful rivals-to-lovers romance set in a Brooklyn bakery, run by our female main character Avital Cohen.  She returned home to run her family's kosher bakery because of medical issues that impact every facet of her life.  So, with her photography career on hold, in walks the male main character, Ethan Lippmann, whose family is the archnemesis of the Cohens.  Naturally, with forced proximity, the sparks fly.  

I love reading books about cultures and customs unfamiliar to me.  And I rooted for Avital and Ethan.

From the publisher:
Step 1: Get the secret recipe. Step 2: Don’t fall in love…

Avital Cohen isn’t wearing underpants—woefully, for unsexy reasons. Chronic pelvic pain has forced her to sideline her photography dreams and her love life. It’s all she can do to manage her family’s kosher bakery, Best Babka in Brooklyn, without collapsing.

She needs hired help.

And distractingly handsome Ethan Lippmann seems the perfect fit.

Except Ethan isn’t there to work—he’s undercover, at the behest of his ironfisted grandfather. Though Lippmann’s is a household name when it comes to mass-produced kosher baked goods, they don’t have the charm of Avital’s bakery. Or her grandfather’s world-famous pumpkin spice babka recipe.

As they bake side by side, Ethan soon finds himself more interested in Avital than in stealing family secrets, especially as he helps her find the chronic pain relief—and pleasure—she’s been missing.

But perfecting the recipe for romance calls for leaving out the lies…even if coming clean means risking everything.

finished reading

This will make an interesting book group discussion.  I know the term "magical thinking," but am unaware of magical overthinking. It makes sense.  My complaint is that the author breaks the flow of writing with references.  Almost every sentence included "according to so-and-so," and that got a little tedious after a while.

From the publisher:
From the bestselling author of Cultish and host of the podcast Sounds Like a Cult, a delicious blend of cultural criticism and personal narrative that explores our cognitive biases and the power, disadvantages, and highlights of magical thinking.

Utilizing the linguistic insights of her “witty and brilliant” first book, Wordslut, and the sociological explorations of her breakout hit, Cultish, Amanda Montell now turns her erudite eye to the inner workings of the human mind and its biases in her most personal and electrifying work yet.

“Magical thinking” can be broadly defined as the belief that one’s internal thoughts can affect unrelated events in the external. Think of the conviction that one can manifest their way out of poverty, stave off cancer with positive vibes, thwart the apocalypse by learning to can their own peaches, or transform an unhealthy relationship to a glorious one with loyalty alone. In all its forms, magical thinking works in service of restoring agency amid chaos, but in The Age of Magical Overthinking, Montell argues that in the modern information age, our brain’s coping mechanisms have been overloaded, and our irrationality turned up to an eleven.

In a series of razor sharp, deeply funny chapters, Montell delves into a cornucopia of the cognitive biases that run rampant in our brains, from how the “Halo effect” cultivates worship (and hatred) of larger than life celebrities, to how the “Sunk Cost Fallacy” can keep us in detrimental relationships long after we’ve realized they’re not serving us. As she illuminates these concepts with her signature brilliance and wit, Montell’s prevailing message is one of hope, empathy, and ultimately forgiveness for our anxiety-addled human selves. If you have all but lost faith in our ability to reason, Montell aims to make some sense of the senseless. To crack open a window in our minds, and let a warm breeze in. To help quiet the cacophony for a while, or even hear a melody in it.

11.17.2025

currently

I am...

Reading The Collected Regrets of Clover by Mikki Brammer

Listening to:  the Maine Council of Social Studies board meeting

Thinking:  I want to ditch this meeting

Feeling:  crummy, I have a cold

Celebrating:  I got a fantastic Stitch Fix--lots of great clothes

Grateful for:  yesterday's snow and ice have melted

Enjoying:  I had a productive session with my psychiatrist, mostly a meds check, but he had some positive and encouraging things to say

Weather:  30° and cloudy

A quote I want to share


11.14.2025

saturday 9


Rings

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
 
1) This song is about a young man who is happy to hear his phone ring. How about you? How do you feel when your phone rings? (Excited, annoyed, surprised, etc.) if it's a call I'm expecting, I am fine with it, but usually I'm surprised or annoyed
 
2) He's got James Taylor on the stereo. Are you a James Taylor fan? yes
 
3) He tells his girl he's been hanging with his buddies, Tony and Mario, but they're no substitute for her. What friend did you recently spend time with? What did you do? my teacher bestie and I went to Central Maine last Saturday for shopping and lunch
 
4) Tony and Mario were real people. They ran a restaurant frequented by the songwriters. Did you dine out this past week? no, but I will on Saturday
 
5) "Rings" is the only hit for the band Cymarron, who hailed from Memphis, a town known for classic southern comfort foods like biscuits and gravy, cornbread and mashed potatoes. What's on the menu at your home this weekend? pizza
 
6)  The boys in Cymarron took their name from their favorite TV show, the Western Cimarron Strip. What TV show are you currently enjoying? Maybe your fellow Sat9ers would like it, too. on BritBox, a series called Ludwig
 
7) In 1971, when this song was popular, the US Mint introduced the Eisenhower Silver Dollar. Is there any change in your wallet or pocket right now? nope
 
8) Also in 1971, Mattel introduced Malibu Barbie, the doll with a tan. Have you ever used a tanning bed?
before a trip to Aruba, I got a special package where I worked up to ten minutes in the tanning bed over a month of sessions
 
9) Random question – If we were to ask your friends, which of these qualities would they say they like best about you: your warmth, your sense of humor, or your intelligence? all three would be answers depending on which friends

11.13.2025

three on thursday

 
One:  Restless Leg Syndrome is harshing my mellow.

Two:  to avoid further discomfort, I might take a sleeping aid and go to bed.

Three: tomorrow is the "soft opening" of Festive Fridays, where a group of us teachers wear holiday-themed or colored clothing.  Jessica called it the "soft opening" because she's wearing Christmas stuff--but I've got a couple of Thanksgiving-related sweaters.